Life challenges us from every direction, and often leaves insufficient adjustment time space between any two respective problems. We are left to ourselves to find solutions to multiple problems at the same time. With that in mind, consider how little we are taught about life and being human, so we create coping mechanisms as we go along. This coping mechanisms affect us, what follows are some of the ways we are affected.
If you are silent about your problems, you may learn resilience, but if you are silent too long, your silence becomes muteness, you may lose your capacity to speak about your problems, and with that your ability to speak about good things as well, about how you felt alive after a certain experience or how love is a miracle.
If you close your eyes from your problems, you may learn gratitude, but if you close your eyes too long, closed eyes become blindness, you may lose your capacity to see your problems, and with that your ability to see the beauty and wonders of life.
If you cover your ears from your problems, you may learn positivity, but if you close your ears too long, covered ears become deafness, you may lose your ability to hear your problems and their negativity, and with that your general ability to hear all the great music, inspiring poems and stories of hope. Yes you may hear them with your ears but your human element won’t hear a thing.
If you cover your skin from your problems, you may learn warmth, but if you cover your skin too long, you may lose your ability to feel your problems, and with that your general ability to feel the care, support and love from others.
If you sleep to avoid your problems, you may get respite from them, but if you sleep too long, you may be less conscious of your problems, and become less alive as well, find yourself reduced to a breathing animal with no mental life.
If you build a wall to keep your problems out, you may get freedom, but if you stay behind walls too long, you may lose your ability to move freely because walls are restrictive, and walls keep both the good and the bad out and you will be empty and alone.
Sometimes silence becomes muteness, looking away blindness, not listening deafness, anything taken to the extreme becomes a disorder or disability.
Sometimes our coping mechanisms make us less and less human, chopping off human attributes bit by bit. While I don’t know much about best ways to cope or how to live life, I know that we should at least review our coping mechanism lest they be chopping mechanisms that chop our lives to pieces.
By : Lawrance Khotso