The Key to Live Your Life.

Picture : Sunsuke Iwata

Picture : Sunsuke Iwata

Life without an addiction would be nonsense. — @adimasnuel


I’ve got that quote from twitter and that still makes me think about my life, what’s my addiction now? by the way you should follow him, I guess he’s one of my twitter crush because I Iove his words, bahkan sejak twitter masih lucu-lucunya dulu. Okay, I don’t wanna talk about that here, I want to talk about life.

It’s the earlier of 2017, and I’m 25 years old. So many things happen in my life last year. I’m blessed for everything; experience, laugh, love, cry, the new perspective, the new lessons, new family, new friends. But the one thing that I realized, I was losing something inside me, and I want to find it again. Sometimes I feel like zombie. I’m empty, just breathing. Then I found that quote on twitter and I asked myself, what’s my addiction? I cannot answer.

Addiction? What’s the addiction? Is that something make you feel alive? What’s that? Dreams? The purpose of life? The vision for the next five or ten years?

Well, I have dreams. I have many things I want to get and many things to do in my dream book. And I always go with that in my bag. I want to travel the world, especialy United Kingdom and Japan on my top list. I want to have my own dream house with the beautiful garden and the cozy library, I want to drive my own Mini Cooper, etc.

The purpose of my life is my family. We want to make our family to feel happy. My mentors always said that we should make it with the details. All of the parent is easy to be happy, when their children grow up and have the moment to talk and eat together with them that can bring the happiness too. So how the way you make them feel happy? I want to give the best to them, like give best accommodation when their go to mecca, buy new house, and can get married with our own money.

I have the dreams, the purpose, and the vision, so why I still can’t feel the addiction, still feel empty inside me. Why? I forgot to love myself.

I realized that love yourself is very important to live our life. It’s not selfish. When you love yourself, you can be yourself. No one teach me about that before. Everybody around me always remind me, but never teach me how to love myself. Our society always say to be ourselves but then they judge us when we’re totally different. It is so confusing for me. Sick society.  So many things happen to me and I realized that we only can be ourselves when we love ourselves.

We always hear an advice from someone or the people around us to believe yourself. Believe in yourself is important too, because no one can believe in you if you don’t believe with yourself. Then I ask myself that am I believe enough with myself? Yeah I believe I can do this and that. But maybe I wasn’t trully believe in myself. You can’t trully believe with yourself when you don’t trully love yourself.

When you love yourself, you will accept everything in you, include your mistake in the past. You’re being honest with yourself. You will get the inner peace. Then you will be free, you will feel free. Feel free to do what you love, and love what you do. You will totally live your life. You will love everything around you and enjoy it. The winds, the weather, all the people around you, the failure, the achievement, smile and talk with strangers. And then you will be suprised what will happen in your live.

You must have big dreams, the vision and the purpose in your life. But love yourself first. It’s the key to live your life. Love yourself and you will get the addiciton in your life. The addiction to do the best, because you really want to give the best in every little moments, and then you will be trully live and love your life.

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Why Are You Here Today?

Your purpose is not one thing.

There is not one, specific definable thing you are “meant” to do with your life.

Your specific set of skills, preferences, circumstances and natural abilities will pave a fate for you. You are your own destiny. Your path is built into you.

But you are not having the full experience of your life if you’re only trying to figure out what the “big picture” looks like. The “big picture” is just an illusion. Forever is just a series of nows.

Instead of asking yourself “Why am I here?” What you need to ask yourself each day is: “Why am I here today?”

Not: “What am I meant to do with my career?” Not: “What should my 5 year plan look like?” Not: “Who am I meant to be with?”

Those questions aren’t irrelevant, but they work themselves out on their own. One day you find the listing for the job you’re meant for. One day you’ll meet the person you’re meant for. It will just happen. That’s how you’ll know it’s right: because it’s happening. It’s really that simple.

So forget only working on one, singular purpose. When you’re really living, your purpose changes all the time. You have many different purposes, and the more you begin to realize this, the more fulfilled you will be.

Sometimes your day’s purpose is to chip away at your big, lifelong goals. Sometimes it’s not. Sometimes it’s to relax, enjoy the sunset, spend time with people you love, waste time surfing blogs, taking pictures, trying new food.

Sometimes it’s being sad, feeling unworthy, being ill, and healing.

The things we usually refer to as failures and setbacks? There are lessons in each of these things. The very lessons that instruct us on how to live the full lives we were meant for.

How do we know we were meant for them? Because we want them. If all we wanted was to be robotic, emotionless productivity machines, we wouldn’t have the itch to explore and wonder and try. We wouldn’t be tired or fatigued or need rest or want to cry.

Those questions aren’t irrelevant, but they work themselves out on their own. One day you find the listing for the job you’re meant for. One day you’ll meet the person you’re meant for. It will just happen. That’s how you’ll know it’s right: because it’s happening. It’s really that simple.

So forget only working on one, singular purpose. When you’re really living, your purpose changes all the time. You have many different purposes, and the more you begin to realize this, the more fulfilled you will be.

Sometimes your day’s purpose is to chip away at your big, lifelong goals. Sometimes it’s not. Sometimes it’s to relax, enjoy the sunset, spend time with people you love, waste time surfing blogs, taking pictures, trying new food.

Sometimes it’s being sad, feeling unworthy, being ill, and healing.

The things we usually refer to as failures and setbacks? There are lessons in each of these things. The very lessons that instruct us on how to live the full lives we were meant for.

How do we know we were meant for them? Because we want them. If all we wanted was to be robotic, emotionless productivity machines, we wouldn’t have the itch to explore and wonder and try. We wouldn’t be tired or fatigued or need rest or want to cry.

When you ask yourself: “Why am I here today?” you learn how to live in today.

When you ask yourself: “Why am I here today?” will the answer be to complain, or to dwell, or to worry? Will it be to nit-pick or judge or criticize?

Probably not.

Keep checking in with yourself each day.

You don’t have just one thing to accomplish here.

Your job isn’t just to build a life. It’s to live through it, too.

By Briana Wiest